The Praise Set
As you may remember, I am constantly looking for new and creative ways to promote my skills and accomplishments. Most of the time I just tell people how great I am, but sometimes the genius of self-promotion is making others think that praising me was their idea. I had a brilliant revelation while watching a volleyball game the other day—the setter.
Three simple steps to set up others to compliment you:
BUMP: Make sure you have done something impressive.
It’s not hard for me to impress myself. I do it all the time. Just in the past week I have picked out the right color tie, edited a Tweet to be exactly 140 characters, donated blood, given a perfect illustration of humility in my Life Group, packed everything I needed for a three day trip into a backpack, been TSA Pre-Checked at the Richmond International Airport, selected the best sandwich on the menu, corrected my spelling of sandwich (only has one h…who knew?). The point is your accomplishment doesn’t have to be anything earth-shattering. It’s not about the accomplishment, anyway. It’s about someone else affirming your worth as a human being.
SET: Compliment someone else
The key is to make sure that, although you are praising them, your compliment will cause them to notice your accomplishment. Here are some hypothetical examples. If you…
- Are wearing a great tie- “I really like your shirt.”
- Tweeted a great joke- “I like following you on Twitter.”
- Donated blood- “I love how you have a full 6-8 pints of blood.”
- Gave a perfect illustration- “Your contributions in Life Group were really good.”
- Packed for a trip into a backpack- “That zipper on your suitcase must be really strong.”
- TSA-Pre Checked- “You were so patient at that security checkpoint.”
- Ordered the best sandwich at lunch- “That looks really good. I’m starting to second guess my selection.”
SPIKE: Enjoy the show
They won’t be able to resist the set because many people feel awkward being complimented (present company excluded). He/she will immediately start looking for some way to reciprocate…and you will be standing there gently caressing your perfect tie, hoisting your light backpack, or raising your perfect lunch selection to your lips. He’ll hit it home for you.
Game, set, match.